Conversation Health Check: Is Your Text Conversation Actually Working?
Paste the thread. See which of six dimensions is weakening it, and the one change to make first. Runs on your phone; nothing is sent anywhere.
Paste the last 10 to 30 messages, starting each with “me:” or “her:”, and answer three quick questions. The check scores six things out of ten: who starts the conversations, how much she invests, whether there’s any emotional movement, whether momentum is building or fading, how question-heavy your side is, and whether it’s progressing toward meeting. Then it tells you what’s working, what’s weakening it, and what to try next.
Start each message with me: or her:. Two names work too.
Runs entirely in your browser. Nothing you type or paste is sent to us or stored anywhere.
The six dimensions
- Who starts it. If you start every conversation, you never learn whether she would. See she never texts first but always responds.
- Her investment. Questions, detail and playfulness from her side. Replies alone aren’t investment, which is the idea behind how to stop carrying the conversation.
- Emotional movement. Teasing, reactions, opinions, laughter: whether the exchange feels like something or reads like a form.
- Momentum. Whether her messages are getting longer or shorter, and whether she leaves you anything to answer.
- Question balance. How much of your side is questions. Past about half, it starts to feel like an interview.
- Progression. Whether a good conversation is heading toward a plan, or turning into a pen-pal arrangement.
Reading the result
A low score is not a verdict on her. It’s a read of the shape of the conversation, and shapes can change in two or three messages. Fix the weakest dimension first, then watch what she does with the change: that response tells you more than any score. If the thread has already gone quiet, the Cold Restart planner helps you decide whether and how to pick it up.
Questions
How accurate is it?
It’s a heuristic. It counts questions, message lengths, playful language and planning words, which catch the common patterns well. It can’t see tone, timing or what you talked about in person, so treat it as a second opinion, not a judgment.
Is my conversation stored anywhere?
No. The check runs entirely in your browser. Nothing you paste is sent to us or saved, and closing the page clears it.
What score is good?
Above 70 is a healthy exchange: keep it light and move toward a plan. Between 50 and 70 it’s alive but leaning on you. Below 50, one or two changes will quickly show whether she wants to be in it.
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