What Does IDC Mean From a Girl? “I Don’t Care,” Easygoing or Annoyed, and How to Tell
“idc” can be “either is fine with me” or “I have stopped caring about this conversation,” and the words look identical. How to tell from what came before, and the reply that handles each.
“idc” from a girl means “I don’t care,” and it is either easygoing or annoyed. Easygoing: you asked her to choose (a restaurant, a film, a day) and either is fine; the reply is to choose for her.
Annoyed: it comes flat, after something that bothered her, or in answer to a question that deserved more than three letters; it means she has stopped caring about this conversation, and the reply is one notch of warmth and a step back from whatever caused it.
The context tells you which; the letters do not.
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Easygoing or annoyed
- After “where do you want to go?”: easygoing. She is handing you the decision. Decide.
- With “honestly” or an emoji: easygoing. “honestly idc, you pick 😊.”
- Flat, after you cancelled, dismissed something, or argued: annoyed. Is she mad at me has the read.
- In answer to a real question about her: a closed door. Something before it mattered.
- As her general register: some people say idc the way others say “whatever,” lightly. Read her by what she does.
Both versions
Flexibility, taken as flexibility. He chose, with a reason, and she was pleased to be chosen for.
Flat, after a second cancellation, and he read it as flexibility. “sure” is the sound of a thread cooling. The right reply was warmth and a fixed day, not “great.”
How to reply to “idc”
Why it works: She handed you the decision; making it, with a bit of confidence, is the reply she wanted.
Why it works: Reading the flatness honestly and fixing the cause does more than any amount of “are you okay?”
Why it works: Asked lightly, it lets her say which, and it shows you noticed the difference.
Three letters, two meanings, and the context decides
“idc” is one of the few messages where the same characters mean opposite things, and the mistake is reading the letters instead of the message before them. After a choice, it is flexibility, and the reply is to choose.
After a let-down, it is a door closing, and the reply is warmth and a fix. Investment is what you are reading: easygoing idc has it; annoyed idc is it leaving.
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What does idc mean from a girl?
“I don’t care,” which is either easygoing (you asked her to choose and either option is fine) or annoyed (it came flat after something that bothered her). The message before it tells you which.
After a choice, choose for her; after a let-down, add warmth and fix the cause.
Is idc a bad sign?
Only in the annoyed version: flat, after a cancellation or a dismissal, followed by cooler replies. The easygoing version is a woman who trusts you to decide, which is a good sign. The same three letters, read by context.
How do I reply to idc?
If she was choosing between options, decide for her with a reason and a bit of confidence. If it came flat after something you did, name it lightly, fix the thing, and add warmth. If you cannot tell, ask once, lightly, which kind it was.
What if she says idc to everything?
If it is her register and she also starts threads and says yes to plans, it is how she talks. If idc has replaced the replies she used to send, something has cooled. She says “nothing” has the same question for a different word.
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