Second Dates, Third Dates and Physical Affection
The second date is where something either starts or politely ends. These guides cover getting it, what to do differently on it, the third date, and the physical side: the first kiss, the first touches, and consent.
The second date is for something different from the first: not finding out whether you like each other, but finding out whether this goes anywhere. These guides cover the moves at the end of the first date and in the days after that lead to a second, what the second and third dates are for, and the physical side in the order it happens: the small touches, the first kiss and how to read that it is welcome, and consent in plain language, because getting that right is what makes everything else easy for both of you.
Where to start
How to get a second date is the sequence. The second date: what changes and the third date are the plans. The first kiss applies the Reciprocity Test to the three moments where it happens; holding hands and the first small touches is the ladder before it. Consent in dating, plainly is the page to read before any of them. The rule throughout is Invest, Invite, Release.
Getting the second date
Second and third dates
Physical affection
- How to Kiss Her for the First Time: The Three Moments It Tends to Be Welcome, and the Sentence That AsksThe first kiss goes wrong in one of two ways: too early, with no signs, or never, with all of them. The three moments it tends to be welcome, what welcome looks like, the sentence that asks, and the graceful miss.
- How to Ask for Consent on a Date, Plainly: The Three Check-Ins, the Words That Are Easy to AnswerMen who want to do this well are told to “just ask” and never shown how. The three check-ins, the words that are easy to say yes or no to, two scenes, and why a man who asks well reads as confident rather than awkward.
More guides
- The First Date: Before, During and the Last Ten MinutesA first date is a conversation with a decision at the end, not an audition. These guides cover it in order, from choosing the format to the last ten minutes, with the nerves and the awkward moments included.
- Date Ideas That Make Conversation EasyA date is a venue for a conversation, and some venues make conversation easy while others make it an interview across a table. These guides choose dates for what they do to the talk, at every budget and in every weather.
- After the Date: Did It Go Well, and What NextThe hours after a date are where men replay instead of read. These guides are the honest read: what the signs actually were, what to do day by day, and how to take a no second date without taking it all.
